Comments on: Dear Mum http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dear-mum Girl-friendly points of view from women living midlife with humor and grace, keeping it real—staying young and healthy in heart and mind. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:30:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Jennifer http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-311 Jennifer Wed, 17 Sep 2008 02:28:00 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-311 That is quite a stunning photo. I assume you took the shot - is this place along the way to see your Mum? I am fortunate to still have my Mom alive. In fact, she and my Dad just spent this past weekend with me at my house, which is only 90 miles away from where they live, in order to help me through the initial shock of breaking up with my live-in boyfriend of 4.5 years. Thanks, Mom. That is quite a stunning photo. I assume you took the shot – is this place along the way to see your Mum?
I am fortunate to still have my Mom alive. In fact, she and my Dad just spent this past weekend with me at my house, which is only 90 miles away from where they live, in order to help me through the initial shock of breaking up with my live-in boyfriend of 4.5 years. Thanks, Mom.

]]> By: Cathy http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-261 Cathy Fri, 01 Aug 2008 01:40:44 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-261 Thank you Christie, Heidi and all who have commented for reminding us of complex and unique relationships we have with our mothers. To appreciate and take hold of the precious time that those of us still have with mom or mum is a gift not to be taken for granted. Thank you Christie, Heidi and all who have commented for reminding us of complex and unique relationships we have with our mothers. To appreciate and take hold of the precious time that those of us still have with mom or mum is a gift not to be taken for granted.

]]> By: Conz http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-260 Conz Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:41:38 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-260 My heart goes out to you Heidi. There is no way to prepare for the shift that occurs in the universe when you lose your mother. I felt a little like an orphan. I was blessed to be with my mother when she breathed her last breath. It was the last and most profound gift she ever gave me. That, and the snort-laugh. I will be thinking of you all day. Much love, Connie My heart goes out to you Heidi. There is no way to prepare for the shift that occurs in the universe when you lose your mother. I felt a little like an orphan. I was blessed to be with my mother when she breathed her last breath. It was the last and most profound gift she ever gave me. That, and the snort-laugh. I will be thinking of you all day. Much love, Connie

]]> By: cfinhollywood http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-259 cfinhollywood Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:22:22 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-259 As I watch so many of my friends lose their mothers, I often think about the day that dreaded phone call will come for me. My mother and I live in different countries. I love our phone calls and hearing the musical sound of her voice. When I visualize the inevitable loss that must come, I know the best I can do is enjoy her the best I can now, however I can--even if it is from far away. However, your blog has inspired me. I think I'll propose a girl's getaway! As I watch so many of my friends lose their mothers, I often think about the day that dreaded phone call will come for me. My mother and I live in different countries. I love our phone calls and hearing the musical sound of her voice. When I visualize the inevitable loss that must come, I know the best I can do is enjoy her the best I can now, however I can–even if it is from far away. However, your blog has inspired me. I think I’ll propose a girl’s getaway!

]]> By: Heidi http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Heidi Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:14:22 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-258 I am the friend Christie refers to. For me, the loss of my mother is immense and has affected me in ways I could not predict or always easily accept. I was blessed, as was Christie, to be able to have time with my Mom near the end of her life. We knew my mother had terminal lung cancer, but none of us knew she would go so quickly or suddenly. We always think there will be more time, to talk, to resolve the past, to come to an understanding. But that is often not the case. I'm so glad I took the time over the last few months, to talk, to drink the margaritas, to soak in the last rays of the sun on the deck of the place I have called home, with the one person who shaped me, and knew me, and understood me, more than anyone else. I wish you all the same good fortune. It is an investment of your time you will never regret. I am the friend Christie refers to. For me, the loss of my mother is immense and has affected me in ways I could not predict or always easily accept. I was blessed, as was Christie, to be able to have time with my Mom near the end of her life.

We knew my mother had terminal lung cancer, but none of us knew she would go so quickly or suddenly. We always think there will be more time, to talk, to resolve the past, to come to an understanding. But that is often not the case. I’m so glad I took the time over the last few months, to talk, to drink the margaritas, to soak in the last rays of the sun on the deck of the place I have called home, with the one person who shaped me, and knew me, and understood me, more than anyone else.

I wish you all the same good fortune. It is an investment of your time you will never regret.

]]> By: Karen http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2008/07/31/dear-mum/comment-page-1/#comment-257 Karen Thu, 31 Jul 2008 15:57:07 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=180#comment-257 Mother and daughter relationships are incredibly complicated. I thought I resolved that my mother and I would just never get along. I live 3,000 miles away from her and although we spoke all the time, I hadn't seen her in close to 10 years. On her 80th birthday my sister and her two boys and my partner and I showed up at her door - unannounced. The next few days proved magical and transformative. I am so glad I went. Our relationship, two years later, has been great. Mother and daughter relationships are incredibly complicated. I thought I resolved that my mother and I would just never get along. I live 3,000 miles away from her and although we spoke all the time, I hadn’t seen her in close to 10 years. On her 80th birthday my sister and her two boys and my partner and I showed up at her door – unannounced. The next few days proved magical and transformative. I am so glad I went. Our relationship, two years later, has been great.

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