Comments on: Mommy Dearest

By: Cindy L

Cindy L — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 00:33:27 +0000

Thanks for the poignant reminder. My widowed mom hasn’t been well lately, and I tend to lose patience with her, much as I love her. Your post reminds me to cherish her while she’s here. My father died 16 years ago, and just as you miss your mom, I miss him every day.

By: christie

christie — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 23:48:45 +0000

Oscar is very lucky to have you, Conz, (and your Mum) he should take more care of you. I do love the disfunctional Hollywood family event, although I flick between channels more that I ever used to. I went once too and no I never have to wonder what cattle feel like when they are herded into pens and held there for hours.

By: a biagi

a biagi — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 05:50:03 +0000

i would LOVE to curl up on your couch and eat caviar and drink champagne while we watch the oscars!!! i may not have a clue about the movies these days since the kids have control of the movie selection 80% of the time, but if you’re open next year, lemme know . we just have to think of something creative for mike and the kids to do so i don’t feel guilty for leaving him w/them AGAIN for hours on end (he takes them ALL the time – very present partner).

By: dearpru

dearpru — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 14:36:51 +0000

The first person I wanted to call after my mother died was my mother. I knew she would have offered me the comfort I needed, the wisdom to put it all in perspective.

That instinct–to turn to the person who loved us first and unconditionally–lasts a lifetime. To turn to the one who tended our cut knees, who tried to heal our hearts when girlfriends were mean, who defended us against our fathers when they said a pair of shoes or dress was too expensive (especially when we’re only going to wear it once)…only a mother understands everything her daughter must go through in this crazy, transitional world.

Lucky you to have shared those golden Oscar moments with Mom.

By: Rebecca Floeter

Rebecca Floeter — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 18:06:22 +0000

Wonderful! I miss my mother’s pithy comments at the Oscars too. We would dissect, analyze and autopsy every outfit, speech and winner so that we exhausted ourselves by the end of the show!

Thanks, Connie for bringing back great memories!

By: mellimel

mellimel — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 17:46:10 +0000

I grew up with the Oscars. My mother was fervent about the Oscars, the Olympics and Dick Cavett. The only one of those that stuck with me was the Oscars. I always have a party be it a party of one, two or more. But the rules are always the same. Talking only during commercials. The red carpet show this year was too short for my liking but the rest was extremely satisfying to me. My mother started taking us to musical theatre as soon as we were old enough to stand on our own (she chose the very back row so we could stand up in our seats) so a good song and dance man and the production numbers that go with him (Hugh Jackman and Company) well…thats a good night. My mother has been gone 8 years. I don’t miss her in that active way you’ve described but I am grateful that I am able to recognize her appearance in and contribution to some of the little rituals of my life.

By: Joyce Mason

Joyce Mason — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 17:34:06 +0000

What an evocative post! I thought The Bad Seed was one of the scariest movies I ever saw as a kid. (My mom did not believe in censorship, although I’m not sure I’d have let my own pre-teen daughter see a movie about a little psycho back in the day.) Once I took an acting class and played the mom in the play version of The Bad Seed, the scene where she figures out her daughter is a murderer. I think I’m still drained 30+ years later from the experience!

My mom died in 1980, and I’ll never stop missing her. Sounds like you were blessed with having a close friendship with your mom. I still talk to mine all the time. The fact that she’s not in a body these days doesn’t stop me. As my husband often says, how wonderful to have loved so much that we miss them when they’re gone.