Comments on: To Buy or Not To Buy: Sometimes It’s Best Not to Question

By: Breon

Breon — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 05:02:34 +0000

Prudence, you do make me laugh–and I love your husband. I’m sure he’s much funnier than George Clooney, and you absolutely need someone with maximum wit…I can’t bear to think of all the stupid things I’ve bought to be supportive, or not bought and had to endure plagues of guilt about the feelings I might have hurt. Such an uncomfortable topic, good for you for airing it (with humor)…

By: Joanna J.

Joanna J. — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 15:50:49 +0000

Been there, done that…. And it was my husband’s book. Yawn

By: dearpru

dearpru — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 17:03:57 +0000

Haha. See what happens when you forego marrying a movie star and choose the smartypants guy with the glasses? That’s the last time I trust dictionary.com over you, dear. And if you think I used to be a bag of bones, just imagine what cuddling up to Anne Hathaway’s remains would be like–a Tim Burton movie, to be sure.

By: tim

tim — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 15:31:51 +0000

now wait a minute here, i am not “bespeckled”. that would imply a skin condition. i am, however, for the record, “bespectacled.” and if your soulmate is george clooney, then mine is anne hathaway. (the one shakespeare married, of course.)

By: Iris

Iris — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 02:06:54 +0000

Funny, I feel guilty ASKING someone to support one of my enterprises. But that’s a whole other subject.

I think the bigger issue lurking beneath the humor is that we women are suckers for this kind of thing. We feel expected to say “yes,” and can’t seem to say “no,” no matter how much we really want to. I like “mellimel’s” response. Just congratulate them profusely, but make no commitments to anything other than “checking it out.” Hopefully, that will let your conscious off the hook and leave a couple of extra dollars in your wallet.

If, on the other hand, you like being a true “supporter” of all of your friends, just spend the money and write it off as the cost of friendship or doing business. If it’s a book, just make sure to tell them you may not have a chance to get to it anytime soon, but you want to be supportive of their achievement.

That being said, I hope I can count on all of you to read my book when I finish writing it

By: Vivian Nesbitt

Vivian Nesbitt — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 19:41:54 +0000

in the theater world there is always the moment when you know you have to promote your show to people who don’t know your work… same in music. A dear friend came to see a play that I did and her relief was palpable. Her words backstage came with a rushing sound…”oh god, I’m so glad you don’t suck!” So, bearing that in mind, I try to support everyone and keep my thoughts judiciously to myself. As long as it’s under $20.

Thanks for the great topic and website…

By: Phil Freshman

Phil Freshman — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:40:56 +0000

And they say that MEN are the only ones whose thoughts stray into fantasy about being paired with someone else!

I think Prudence has got a good topic there, regarding with the thoughts that go through one’s mind when a friend publishes a book and you say you’re going to read it. And then don’t, having thereby entered a wasteland of guilt that keeps on going and going and going.