Comments on: Come Back Little Mojo http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=come-back-little-mojo Girl-friendly points of view from women living midlife with humor and grace, keeping it real—staying young and healthy in heart and mind. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:30:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Connie http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1093 Connie Fri, 17 Apr 2009 19:47:30 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1093 Up till now I've been anti hormone replacement and have been doing this whole menopause experience au natural. I can live with the hot flashes and the sleepless nights, the moodiness, the weight gain, (okay--the weight gain, not so much), but this lack of libido is the wake-up call to at least look into alternatives. My Dr's appointment next week is to have a conversation about a little sumthin, sumthin in the hormone department (tho' I absolutely will not take something that requires the torture of horses or some other unfortunate creature). I do so appreciate all y'all's input, advice, and support. I'll let you know what path I choose. Anybody who finds the magic elixir, please let us know. Many thanks. Up till now I’ve been anti hormone replacement and have been doing this whole menopause experience au natural. I can live with the hot flashes and the sleepless nights, the moodiness, the weight gain, (okay–the weight gain, not so much), but this lack of libido is the wake-up call to at least look into alternatives. My Dr’s appointment next week is to have a conversation about a little sumthin, sumthin in the hormone department (tho’ I absolutely will not take something that requires the torture of horses or some other unfortunate creature). I do so appreciate all y’all’s input, advice, and support. I’ll let you know what path I choose. Anybody who finds the magic elixir, please let us know. Many thanks.

]]> By: Meg http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1088 Meg Thu, 16 Apr 2009 15:44:50 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1088 Can't speak for the gay men but yes it happens to gay women, we have the same hormone loss after all. And then of course there is the "Lesbian bed death" syndrome but that's another subject entirely. As with all the comments, distance, anticipation, working to keep it alive, all of that. I have one friend who says she didn't know she even wanted sex until she and her partner got started. I kind of feel this way. Gotta make the time and give it the effort. Can’t speak for the gay men but yes it happens to gay women, we have the same hormone loss after all. And then of course there is the “Lesbian bed death” syndrome but that’s another subject entirely. As with all the comments, distance, anticipation, working to keep it alive, all of that. I have one friend who says she didn’t know she even wanted sex until she and her partner got started. I kind of feel this way. Gotta make the time and give it the effort.

]]> By: Allison http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1084 Allison Thu, 16 Apr 2009 14:09:42 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1084 I think like many things, it's a very individual thing. If just (!) having a wonderful life together is good for you with the occasional wonderful sex thing, then is there anything wrong with that? Isn't one of the nice things about getting older, letting go of some of the 'shoulds' in our life? If it works for you, keep doing it, if it doesn't, there are things you can try to put a little zip back in the bedroom :) Personally, my libido is stronger than ever at 51. It helps that I have a man in my life who I'm very attracted to and he's a very healthy 53 year old so we're both rarin' to go. If I were on my own, I probably wouldn't think so much about it. But when I did, I would miss it. I think like many things, it’s a very individual thing. If just (!) having a wonderful life together is good for you with the occasional wonderful sex thing, then is there anything wrong with that? Isn’t one of the nice things about getting older, letting go of some of the ‘shoulds’ in our life? If it works for you, keep doing it, if it doesn’t, there are things you can try to put a little zip back in the bedroom :)

Personally, my libido is stronger than ever at 51. It helps that I have a man in my life who I’m very attracted to and he’s a very healthy 53 year old so we’re both rarin’ to go. If I were on my own, I probably wouldn’t think so much about it. But when I did, I would miss it.

]]> By: Annice http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1082 Annice Thu, 16 Apr 2009 11:14:41 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1082 Great topic. I'm 56, and I've tried it all, botanical creams, acupuncture, medicinal herbs, and more. Nothing works well. Friends say once it's over, the libido comes back and I'm trusting that is true. Meanwhile, I'm enjoying my life for sure. Great topic. I’m 56, and I’ve tried it all, botanical creams, acupuncture, medicinal herbs, and more. Nothing works well. Friends say once it’s over, the libido comes back and I’m trusting that is true. Meanwhile, I’m enjoying my life for sure.

]]> By: SimplyForties http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1081 SimplyForties Thu, 16 Apr 2009 01:02:09 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1081 I changed my hormones and my libido went away. I felt much better overall, except for that so I let it go for a year. I mentioned it to my doctor when I went back for my next annual and she switched me to yet another hormone and, what do you know, it came back! Hurray! I felt better and was back in the mood. Don't accept a loss of libido as part of aging process! I changed my hormones and my libido went away. I felt much better overall, except for that so I let it go for a year. I mentioned it to my doctor when I went back for my next annual and she switched me to yet another hormone and, what do you know, it came back! Hurray! I felt better and was back in the mood. Don’t accept a loss of libido as part of aging process!

]]> By: Cathy http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1080 Cathy Tue, 14 Apr 2009 21:11:24 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1080 As a single, unattached midlife woman I’ve noticed that the longer I go without SEX, the less I think about it. But I’ve always been that way. My most recent relationship was long distance, so it went the distance—the yearning did not wane. (He was also in his mid-fifties, healthy and zestful, and did not need the help of enhancement drugs.) The excitement was inherent in the anticipation, the appetizer of the long distance romance. Past long-term relationships went the way of ho-hum, as in I’d rather be doing something else instead of a roll in the hay. So as the other comments say, it’s about work and dedication. But aren’t most things that have a big payoff? I hope you get the Mojo payoff soon Connie. As a single, unattached midlife woman I’ve noticed that the longer I go without SEX, the less I think about it. But I’ve always been that way. My most recent relationship was long distance, so it went the distance—the yearning did not wane. (He was also in his mid-fifties, healthy and zestful, and did not need the help of enhancement drugs.) The excitement was inherent in the anticipation, the appetizer of the long distance romance. Past long-term relationships went the way of ho-hum, as in I’d rather be doing something else instead of a roll in the hay. So as the other comments say, it’s about work and dedication. But aren’t most things that have a big payoff? I hope you get the Mojo payoff soon Connie.

]]> By: carine http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/04/14/come-back-little-mojo/comment-page-1/#comment-1079 carine Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:15:14 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1348#comment-1079 Boy, oh boy. Great topic, Connie. I've been thinking about this stuff for a LONG time. So much so that last year I started work on a book about sexual passion; interviewed a bunch of women in all age ranges on the subject and the answer to your question is, as usual, all over the place. But the long and short of it is that yes, most women go through this (not as much for men, but their libido decreases, too); and yes, it's possible to get the mojo back. The bad news? You have to work at it. But it's not work as in hard labor. A different kind of work, they tell me... Boy, oh boy. Great topic, Connie. I’ve been thinking about this stuff for a LONG time. So much so that last year I started work on a book about sexual passion; interviewed a bunch of women in all age ranges on the subject and the answer to your question is, as usual, all over the place. But the long and short of it is that yes, most women go through this (not as much for men, but their libido decreases, too); and yes, it’s possible to get the mojo back. The bad news? You have to work at it. But it’s not work as in hard labor. A different kind of work, they tell me…

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