Comments on: Here a Mother, There a Mother, Everywhere a Bit o’Mother http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/ Girl-friendly points of view from women living midlife with humor and grace, keeping it real—staying young and healthy in heart and mind. Mon, 16 Aug 2010 18:59:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cathy http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1183 Cathy Sat, 16 May 2009 22:16:06 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1183 I love the garden idea. Graves, ashes and other ways of remembrance don't seem to have the qualities of ongoing, growing tributes, like a garden or tree, do. I'm blessed to still have my mother with me and even here on earth, that relationship continues to change. The mother/daughter relationship, so complex. I love the garden idea. Graves, ashes and other ways of remembrance don’t seem to have the qualities of ongoing, growing tributes, like a garden or tree, do. I’m blessed to still have my mother with me and even here on earth, that relationship continues to change. The mother/daughter relationship, so complex.

]]> By: Debra Stokes http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 Debra Stokes Fri, 15 May 2009 13:05:10 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1182 Nice tribute, Melissa. My Mom transitioned into eternity just last month. For some reason, I don't feel "motherless"; I feel engulfed by all that she was and the true fulfillment of who she has become. The garden is a lovely memorial. Nice. Very nice. Nice tribute, Melissa. My Mom transitioned into eternity just last month. For some reason, I don’t feel “motherless”; I feel engulfed by all that she was and the true fulfillment of who she has become. The garden is a lovely memorial. Nice. Very nice.

]]> By: Cindy L http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1181 Cindy L Fri, 15 May 2009 12:58:59 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1181 This sweet post hit home with me on a lot of levels. My mom is still here, but fading each year. I try to make time to fully appreciate and honor her while I can. My father died 17 years ago, and Father's Day is still very hard for me. Someone else mentioned "Amazing Grace" on the bagpipes, which I had played at my father's funeral. (He was a first generation American with Scottish parents.) This sweet post hit home with me on a lot of levels. My mom is still here, but fading each year. I try to make time to fully appreciate and honor her while I can. My father died 17 years ago, and Father’s Day is still very hard for me. Someone else mentioned “Amazing Grace” on the bagpipes, which I had played at my father’s funeral. (He was a first generation American with Scottish parents.)

]]> By: Lori Oliver-Tierney http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1180 Lori Oliver-Tierney Fri, 15 May 2009 07:31:39 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1180 Thanks for the great humor in a sad situation. I just lost my mother to cancer this summer, but like you said you never lose your mom. I was lucky,I knew my mom in her life and she lives on in me in her death. Thanks for the great humor in a sad situation. I just lost my mother to cancer this summer, but like you said you never lose your mom. I was lucky,I knew my mom in her life and she lives on in me in her death.

]]> By: carine http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1179 carine Thu, 14 May 2009 22:38:26 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1179 Nice post, Melissa. Made me realize again how lucky I am that my mother is still with me! Nice post, Melissa. Made me realize again how lucky I am that my mother is still with me!

]]> By: Conz http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1178 Conz Thu, 14 May 2009 16:48:05 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1178 Melissa--When my mom passed away she also planned for herself to be cremated and asked to be sprinkled in the San Francisco Bay with Amazing Grace blasted out by bagpipes over the boat's loudspeakers. My sister and I were stunned by her wishes, because she couldn't even swim. We proceeded to try to have her remains sprinkled in a lovely garden, but The Neptune Society co-mingles ashes and my mother would have hated hanging out with strangers for all eternity. Even dead, my mother got her way, and my sister and I had a huge laugh and cry. This was more than a dozen years ago, and I can't hear any version of Amazing Grace without feeling her presence. Melissa–When my mom passed away she also planned for herself to be cremated and asked to be sprinkled in the San Francisco Bay with Amazing Grace blasted out by bagpipes over the boat’s loudspeakers. My sister and I were stunned by her wishes, because she couldn’t even swim. We proceeded to try to have her remains sprinkled in a lovely garden, but The Neptune Society co-mingles ashes and my mother would have hated hanging out with strangers for all eternity. Even dead, my mother got her way, and my sister and I had a huge laugh and cry. This was more than a dozen years ago, and I can’t hear any version of Amazing Grace without feeling her presence.

]]> By: Diane http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/2009/05/14/here-a-mother-there-a-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-1177 Diane Thu, 14 May 2009 16:37:55 +0000 http://www.fiftyisthenew.com/?p=1654#comment-1177 Thanks for your insight on what it feels like to be a "motherless daughter" on Mother's Day. Your post shows the enduring messiness of mother-daughter relationships. Love your hollyhock memorial tribute to your mom--what a beautiful idea! Thanks for your insight on what it feels like to be a “motherless daughter” on Mother’s Day. Your post shows the enduring messiness of mother-daughter relationships.

Love your hollyhock memorial tribute to your mom–what a beautiful idea!

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