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By: Zusa

Zusa — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:46:19 +0000

I just realized there is Lala that has posted before me so I will now call myself Zusa from the Old High German hagzusa, so I guess I am now Zusa the Hag – and proud of it!

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:08:57 +0000

All I have to say is that I definately fear, revere and love Lala however she chooses to define herself!! I think it is not so important how society perceives something or someone, but how we, individually, perceive ourself. My hag rules!!

By: Lala

Lala — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 23:59:37 +0000

I have done a little research on this because of my “hag” status. In some older societies the crone or hag was “the wise one”, a revered elder of the circle. Also in some northern European pagan societies the hag was a diviner, a soothsayer, and “hag” itself a word for which there was no masculine counterpart. In these societies only the female possessed these abilities. It contained magic. After your comment I looked further and found that hag could describe a woman of “prophetic and oracular powers” and was a figure both feared and respected. The Delphic Sybil is an example of this. So in both Norse and Greco-Roman mythos “hag” is a word associated with insight, power and magic, unfettered by man; i.e. Hags rule!

By: Cathy

Cathy — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 21:32:53 +0000

Lala,
Oh how nice it would be to reclaim words. There’s an earlier post from Connie about the word “pussy” that says, let’s make it mean something good and strong. The word “queer” was successfully redefined, but I looked up “hag” and “crone” in Webster’s Dictionary, and it’s a long trek to make it look different:

Hag
Etymology: Middle English hagge demon, old woman
1 : an ugly, slatternly, or evil-looking old woman 2 archaic a : a female demon b : an evil or frightening spirit : hobgoblin  3 : witch

Crone
Etymology: Middle English, a term of abuse, from Anglo-French caroine, charoine dead flesh…
: a withered old woman

Would love to know how you see it, what’s the name of your rose? I guess beauty is also in the eyes of the beholder. But perception, yikes, that’s a tough one.

By: Lala

Lala — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 04:11:34 +0000

I love being a “hag”. I am at the time of life where the monikers of “hag” and “crone” are not a denegration. I embrace them freely. I define their meaning and welcome the wisdom they denote. I love my fag and the two words flow together well. As my favorite playwrite would say, “A rose by any other name…”

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:15:15 +0000

Hey Connie: Since you made your comment about not wanting to be referred to as a “hag”, I have been discussing this with some of my close women friends (you included). As a result, my bestest friend in the whole wide world and I created our own blog that chronicles the back and forths of a fag and his hag on many diverse issues (check it out-and tell a friend or more!). Another one of my friends, who is a dominatrix, says, like you, that she does not want to be called a “hag”. She prefers the term “Fag Diva”!! Now how progressive is that?.

By: Bibiana Princeton

Bibiana Princeton — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 22:57:15 +0000

Oh my gosh, I felt like this was a tribute to the deep love and connection I had with my best friend Randy who passed in March of 2006. No one could pick me up or make me do Jane Fonda’s butt busters while crying hysterically at the gym. No stopping, lunges, and laughing and the BEST hugs!I miss him!
The best thing about a gay boyfriend is that they can love you more than a great girlfriend and are strong enough to risk telling you the stark truth when no one else will!